Продолжая тему мата
May. 31st, 2004 12:41 pm![[personal profile]](https://www.dreamwidth.org/img/silk/identity/user.png){kind=small}
azbukivediIsn't there a conflict between item 4 of the first part (see previous post) and item 3 of the second one? Don't people always move in herds, bend to peer pressure, and desperately try to belong? Item 1.4 would confirm this theory, item 2.3 contradicts it. The truth, at least for me, is that I desperately try to appear as if I belong (even if I don't) to the groups I WANT to belong to. If I am in a company of people who excite me intellectually, I bend and mold. If their language is that of a "polite society" and clear of all indecent insinuations - no problem. If the group is more hip and spices up the conversation here and there, then so do I. Remarkably, I feel comfortable in both situation and do not for a second consider it a form of betrayal of self, because my "self" has many facets and these two coexist peacefully.
On the other hand, in the company of people who use so much cursing that I lose the track of the sentence meanings (they tend to be the people I don't want to deal with much anyway), I want to stick to my true self and do everything possible NOT to belong. Call it an anti-herding instinct. There is no facet of me that is comfortable in such situations, and to mold in this circumstances would be a true betrayal of who I am. I am no highfalutin' prissy "дама но не вама", but lowbrow is not a way to go.
On the other hand, in the company of people who use so much cursing that I lose the track of the sentence meanings (they tend to be the people I don't want to deal with much anyway), I want to stick to my true self and do everything possible NOT to belong. Call it an anti-herding instinct. There is no facet of me that is comfortable in such situations, and to mold in this circumstances would be a true betrayal of who I am. I am no highfalutin' prissy "дама но не вама", but lowbrow is not a way to go.
